I’m exhausted right now while I write this. We had quite a scare here earlier this evening, I will write more about it later. Some time out with an art opening, an outdoor music fest, and some old and new friends helped.
This morning I had a chance to share at a networking meeting what I do. It’s August, only a few people were there, and all of them I have met before. I talked about some of my clients and what I do to help them, the conversations I’ve had with parents, and some of the more heartbreaking times I’ve tried to help people but it doesn’t always work. I’m grateful for this chance because it is usually something I don’t get a chance to do.
One story I related, and as of right now I don’t have any follow-up, was a phone call I received from a woman whose son was in the process of having an IEP and the school district wanted to label him special needs because he wasn’t reading at 4, in preschool. Someone had given her my number, thank you if the person is reading this, and I spent two hours on the phone with her. She told me they were concerned because he wasn’t reading and that he needed to be ready for testing in Kindergarten. She had no idea that you are allowed to have someone with you, attorney or otherwise, for the IEP meeting and that you are allowed to record them. I told her to check the state’s statutes and laws.
We discussed the labeling aspect: pros and cons.
We discussed Michael Gurian and I recommended that she read his works. His books have been hugely helpful to me over the years in understanding and dealing with people not only academically but professionally as well.
We discussed how even if you learn to read at 4 or 14, everyone is at the same level by the time they are 18 years-old. Yes,some people never learn to full read and are functionally illiterate, and I know people in this situation and have worked with them and how it is heartbreaking. Yet the stress of having to read at 4…..
I wonder how she is doing. If you are reading this, please let me know.