Day 4: Pedal to the Metal

Day 3 I posted an oldie but goodie.  Let me know if you want the link.

For Day 4, another part of what I do is the pedal to the metal, so to speak.  This occurs in many ways, including advocacy for the client’s self and advocacy for client.

People can be their own worst enemies, and this is true for everyone, no matter what walk of life or no matter how popular and outgoing a person is.  If you can’t advocate for yourself, even with a simple “yes”, and/ or advocate for others, it is a necessary skill to have and to build on.

People get aggravated when I ask for a sit down conversation or some kind of face-to-face, even if electronic, meeting.  The more I can talk to you, the better the outcome.  The more I know about you, the more I can help.

Don’t hide yourself away from the world.  The more people know of you and about your skills and talents, the better.  An hour invested in sitting down and talking with someone, even if the business connection doesn’t work out or things take longer than you want, it was worth it.

Never be afraid of putting your pedal to the metal.



via Daily Prompt: Climbing

Climbing is a natural human instinct.  If we didn’t have the need to climb, playgrounds and jungle gyms wouldn’t exist and neither would rock climbing places for adults.

Grab and grasp with your hands and find a place for your feet and swing up.

Hiking also includes climbing.  I was on a hike this past week and the ranger was trying to show us how to climb the trail without tiring out.

Humans climb whatever they can find, just ask any parents and caregivers of toddlers.

Off of the top of my head the things we climb:

Furniture, stairs, chairs, steps, roofs, rock walls, trees, mountains, hiking paths, summits.

In English we also use this word to talk about going up and progressing in work, life, careers.  There is so much talk about “climbing the ladder”.  To where?  More money? More responsibility?  A higher floor?

If you watched the TV series “Mad Men”, there was always the undertone, the elephant in the room, about who was really doing all the work but never able to climb.

Climb up and climb down.  Climb backwards, climb forwards.

We climb no matter where we go and no matter what situation we are in.

Take a Hike

Whenever I teach English idioms, this can be one of the tougher idioms to walk through, no pun intended.

What does “hike” mean to you?  A hike can be a long walk, a long period of travel, or with regards to money, money and prices can hike, they can go up.

On the base level, we know to take a hike means to take a nice walk, a tough, challenging walk in nature.

However, the idiom goes to another level.  When we tell someone to take a hike, or someone else tells us to take a hike, it means to leave in a negative way.  Leave, good-bye.

Hopefully that hike will be a better to a better place.


Is your glass half full or half empty?

What is empty anyway?  Is something ever really empty?  Can a person really ever be empty inside?

Empty is an adjective and  verb: empty the garbage, empty the glass, etc.

Going to chemistry for a moment: we are taught that there are atoms, molecules, elements all around us all the time.  The air we breath is composed of many elements: oxygen, nitrogen, carbon dioxide, etc.

How can that glass ever really be empty if there are elements in there all the time, even if we can’t see them?

Space is even described as “empty”.  Maybe “vast” is a better term.  The same chemistry applies even if the same elements don’t exist in the same amounts.  Again, how can it be empty?

How can anything be empty?  Is anything really ever empty?

Inanis=Latin for “empty”



Okay, so I am frustrated today.  I don’t like being frustrated.

I had a woman call me looking for work.  I told her I have had no response to the ad she saw and called about.  Get me people and I can hire you.  Call me in a month.

I texted six people with my schedule who said they want help.  No response.

I need to figure out what part of me, what part of my business, I need to market first, on top, so to speak.

I ran into a friend of mine last night and she was telling me about “slash marketing”.  This is right up my alley because there are so many components to what I do.

Do I market tutoring first?  People think tutors charge too high and are afraid.  I have found that out.  My rate is that to the median income to the area.  I don’t believe in fleecing people.

Do I market employment testing help?

Do I market English as a Second Language?  This is my first love and what led to everything else.  But I don’t want to miss the people who need resumes.  This was half the income I pulled the past month.

What makes me tick: I have always, always, always believed and followed the ideal that people are individuals and therefore I have problems with this marketing to a group or segments.  I have my EMT license but am older than about half of my coworkers.  I’m not the “average.”

You are an individual.  I love what I do because I love working with people as individuals.  I love seeing the particular person I am working with flourish, thrive, improve, move up, get ahead.  I love seeing the AHA! moments and giving them something that they can never lose and no one can take from them.

I know there are individuals “out there” who need my help and I am able to help them.  I have my seven sources based on everything that I do.

I’ve done up fliers in English, Spanish, Portuguese, and French.  Polish is next.  I will be posting the links on my website.  What do I need to change around?

What am I missing?  More importantly, who am I missing?  What energy is blocking this?  What do I need to be doing differently?

Beginning Tips: Stay-at-home (SAHM)

As promised, this is for you who are looking for work and have been at home.  This includes Moms, Dads, grandparents, and parents who homeschool.

This is a very slippery slope.  Some people feel comfortable talking about it and some people don’t.  We are told that employers can’t discriminate if you are or did stay-at-home.  Yet from both personal experience and others I have spoken with, this is not always true.

A wise woman once told me to say: “I have/ I had other obligations” when the illegal question is asked, or if you work part-time, why don’t you work full-time?  I have my business.  When not meeting with clients, it is full-time with marketing and trying to stay on top of things and keep up with clients.

Resumes and job applications are even tougher.  I filled out one job application recently that asked you to explain a month or more of no work.

I have learned in life to always be doing something: volunteer work, direct selling, something.  This keeps you in contact with people and possible future references and job opportunities.  I have also learned to get out of the house for a couple of hours each day unless snowed in during a blizzard.  Even then, go out and shovel.

Running a household and taking care of children is no joke.  Doing this is like earning a crash course degree in economics and psychology all in one.  (I wish all colleges would count this experience as life learning.)  Yet the question: how to dodge the question and answer the question at the same time?

Two words: “Private caregiver.”

Two other possible words: “Family caregiver.” (If you feel so inclined and so comfortable.)

When listing tasks and responsibilities:

  1. Day-to-day upkeep and maintenance of private household
  2. Day-to-day accounting of given  budget/ allowance
  3. Day-to-day daily and personal care of private individuals

What else?

Years of hard work can be difficult to sum up in a few short words.  Everyone’s experience is similar but different.

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Group Discussion, or not?

Again, from a prompt….the ideal conversation….

First, we all talk to ourselves.  It helps us figure things out, settle us.

Second, it depends on the situation.  I may personally prefer one-to-one in order to get to know someone.  Yet sometimes putting people in with a third, or fourth, or in a large group totally changes dynamics and may reveal a lot about someone.

Some people like to be in control of group situations and some people will only talk when with one or two other people.

Having been in many different types of classrooms over the years, I can instantly tell you who my talkers will be and who my silent ones will be.  Trying to get the silent ones to talk is a challenge I relish.  Yet, if the talkers aren’t around, the silent ones immediately open up and they always know so much more than they give themselves credit for.

This is why I like one-on-one and small groups when given the opportunity.

This is also why coffee shops are popular.  They give the opportunity for one-on-one and small group discussion.

What is your favorite type of conversation?

In, On, At

One of the most challenging parts of the English language to learn are the prepositions. Native speakers tend not to think about these or analyze them a lot.  Yet for people learning English, especially in the beginning stages, they can be confusing.

In: we use for specific locations.  Example: I am in my kitchen.

On: Objects, and people, “on” something: My keys are on the table. (Your keys can’t be in the table, but they can be in the drawer.)

At: general location: I am at the hospital.  Great, but where exactly?

My most common example I use with beginning learners:

I am at the hospital in the emergency room on the first floor.

Beginning Tips: Part One


Welcome to Your Mind in Bloom’s Beginning Tips.  You’ve asked for this.

We are going to begin today with one of our most asked for topics: resumes.

We all need resumes, known in some circles as CVs.

Before you even begin writing your resume, sit down in a quiet spot, no social media, with a notepad/ notebook and pen or pencil.

Use one sheet of paper for every work experience you have had in the last five years, both paid and volunteer.  (Yes! Volunteering does count!) (And yes! Homemaker/ stay-at-home counts! More on that later….)

Write down everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, you did.  No matter how small, no matter how insignificant.

Some questions to ponder:

  1. What did you do?
  2. What did you do on a daily basis?
  3. What daily routines did you have?
  4. Any major responsibilities?
  5. Any minor responsibilities?
  6. Any successes? Improvements? Positive changes?
  7. Who were your customers/ clients?
  8. How did you help your customers/ clients?
  9. What specific skills did you use?
  10. What specific skills did you learn?
  11. Write a quick summary, two to three sentences, of your typical day/ shift/ experience.

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