Beginning Tips: Stay-at-home (SAHM)

As promised, this is for you who are looking for work and have been at home.  This includes Moms, Dads, grandparents, and parents who homeschool.

This is a very slippery slope.  Some people feel comfortable talking about it and some people don’t.  We are told that employers can’t discriminate if you are or did stay-at-home.  Yet from both personal experience and others I have spoken with, this is not always true.

A wise woman once told me to say: “I have/ I had other obligations” when the illegal question is asked, or if you work part-time, why don’t you work full-time?  I have my business.  When not meeting with clients, it is full-time with marketing and trying to stay on top of things and keep up with clients.

Resumes and job applications are even tougher.  I filled out one job application recently that asked you to explain a month or more of no work.

I have learned in life to always be doing something: volunteer work, direct selling, something.  This keeps you in contact with people and possible future references and job opportunities.  I have also learned to get out of the house for a couple of hours each day unless snowed in during a blizzard.  Even then, go out and shovel.

Running a household and taking care of children is no joke.  Doing this is like earning a crash course degree in economics and psychology all in one.  (I wish all colleges would count this experience as life learning.)  Yet the question: how to dodge the question and answer the question at the same time?

Two words: “Private caregiver.”

Two other possible words: “Family caregiver.” (If you feel so inclined and so comfortable.)

When listing tasks and responsibilities:

  1. Day-to-day upkeep and maintenance of private household
  2. Day-to-day accounting of given  budget/ allowance
  3. Day-to-day daily and personal care of private individuals

What else?

Years of hard work can be difficult to sum up in a few short words.  Everyone’s experience is similar but different.

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Group Discussion, or not?

Again, from a prompt….the ideal conversation….

First, we all talk to ourselves.  It helps us figure things out, settle us.

Second, it depends on the situation.  I may personally prefer one-to-one in order to get to know someone.  Yet sometimes putting people in with a third, or fourth, or in a large group totally changes dynamics and may reveal a lot about someone.

Some people like to be in control of group situations and some people will only talk when with one or two other people.

Having been in many different types of classrooms over the years, I can instantly tell you who my talkers will be and who my silent ones will be.  Trying to get the silent ones to talk is a challenge I relish.  Yet, if the talkers aren’t around, the silent ones immediately open up and they always know so much more than they give themselves credit for.

This is why I like one-on-one and small groups when given the opportunity.

This is also why coffee shops are popular.  They give the opportunity for one-on-one and small group discussion.

What is your favorite type of conversation?

Beginning Tips: Part One

Hello!

Welcome to Your Mind in Bloom’s Beginning Tips.  You’ve asked for this.

We are going to begin today with one of our most asked for topics: resumes.

We all need resumes, known in some circles as CVs.

Before you even begin writing your resume, sit down in a quiet spot, no social media, with a notepad/ notebook and pen or pencil.

Use one sheet of paper for every work experience you have had in the last five years, both paid and volunteer.  (Yes! Volunteering does count!) (And yes! Homemaker/ stay-at-home counts! More on that later….)

Write down everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, you did.  No matter how small, no matter how insignificant.

Some questions to ponder:

  1. What did you do?
  2. What did you do on a daily basis?
  3. What daily routines did you have?
  4. Any major responsibilities?
  5. Any minor responsibilities?
  6. Any successes? Improvements? Positive changes?
  7. Who were your customers/ clients?
  8. How did you help your customers/ clients?
  9. What specific skills did you use?
  10. What specific skills did you learn?
  11. Write a quick summary, two to three sentences, of your typical day/ shift/ experience.

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