What change are you seeking to make?
A lot of people find it difficult to understand what I do. I don’t like being called a “tutor”, even though on a basic level that is what I do. People have given me other names (not sharing them, yet). Can I have a moment and just say “tutor” is too banal for the areas I cover?
Yesterday I saw the movie “Second Act” with Jennifer Lopez. A very formulaic movie, yes, but Lopez’s character Maya Vargas is the epitome and screams of my answer to the question “who’s it for?” and phrase “ideal client”. First, I never, never, never, never, and never have clients lie. I’ve caught them in the act and told them straight out they need to be truthful because they will be found out. Second, I don’t want to be part of it. If I’m helping someone, it reflects poorly on me if they cheat.
Maya Vargas is a person everyone can identify with on some level. The woman who works for 15 years and is passed over because she doesn’t have a piece of paper. The woman who has her “past” and must make a choice between her partner that she loves and what she wants and needs to do to “get ahead”. Maya is the down-to-earth, girl-next-door who has built her relationships and has friends looking out for her and having them try to help gets in the way of the person she is trying to be. Maya wants to “fit in” and be “the One” but like everyone else, has her detractors. We’ve all had those work “enemies”, the jackass bosses, and people who just hate us from the word “go”. Maya is our dream because she rises to the occasion for all of them and overcomes.
I want to give people like Maya a first chance, a second chance, and a third chance. I want to give people chances they may never have had before. I want to give people the chance to showcase the skills and knowledge they have accumulated and earned. I want people to shine in their own spotlight. I want people to take what they have and run with it. I want people to succeed where they never thought possible.
I always tell my clients that if someone won’t take them seriously on their skills, they may not want to be working for that person. In the end, Maya goes out and manages to combine everything she has learned for her own venture. I know for many people this may not be possible at whatever point they are in their lives. However, opportunities abound. Fear is the only “thing” holding you back. Small steps. One at a time.
What change am I seeking to make? That first step, those first few steps, small or large, or that large leap with someone like Maya. Take my metaphoric hand and let’s do this together.